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Supporting Your Children When They Move Out

Moving out of your parent’s home seems like a hip thing to do now for young adults, but there are also some good reasons for doing so besides having independence. Learning to live on your own and be self-sufficient is one of life’s great trials. Most people don’t want to be forever dependent on others and throwing yourself into the deep end by getting a home or moving out is a great way to learn how to take care of yourself.

Many children get used to their homes and, as a result, they don’t always feel like moving out until they start to demand privacy. There might also be other factors, such as schooling or job opportunities that are further away from your home. Whatever the reason your child decides to move out, you can help them pick out the right home and also give advice on how to take care of themselves. Here are a couple of tips to help them settle in and ways to support them in their move.

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Discuss Their Options

When your child expresses interest in moving out, you have to discuss their options with them. A young adult probably doesn’t have the money to get a mortgage or the income to sustain renting a place for a long period of time, and unless you have the money to pay the rent for them, you probably won’t be able to assist financially. There are plenty of benefits and welfare money that you can collect depending on your location, but they might not be enough. The first hurdle is finding a property on real estate websites. Take a note of how much a home costs or how much rent is needed, and teach them about how to calculate mortgage repayments and what it means to have a job.

The alternative option is when they move out for university or college. Student loans should be able to help pay for things such as rent and food while your child studies away from you. However, remind your child that student loans need to be paid off, and any additional money they get will most likely have to be paid back.

Supporting Their Move

There are many ways to help your child settle into their new location once they have moved in. If it’s not too far away from you, then consider making regular visits, such as once every few days and then dialling it back to once a week, and then once every two weeks and so on. If you feel like you’re intruding on your child’s privacy, then don’t worry too much about visiting. Instead, send them messages and ask them how they’re doing.

If you are used to cooking for your child, then consider cooking up some meals and storing them in tupperware boxes to give to your child. Don’t make them rely on your home cooking, however. Help them sort out their grocery shopping and teach them a few cooking basics so that they don’t always rely on fast food and takeout deliveries. You want to teach them the value of good cooking and you can ideally do this before they move out so you can share a kitchen together and teach them how to make their own meals and how to do the shopping.

Saving for School: How to Deal with Student Debt

Education is hugely important. It provides us with the tools we need to thrive in life, arming us with knowledge and creativity. However, the higher levels of education come at a cost and one that should be planned for well in advance.

University fees are on the rise and often students leave full-time education with huge debts hanging over them. Despite the size of the figures involved, these student debts are manageable if you follow these tips.

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Plan while you can

Depending on where you went to university and what type of loan you took out, it’s quite likely that you have some form of grace period before you have to start paying it off. In the UK, this is based on your salary, while in the US it could be a fixed length of time. In either case, make use of this period of time to plan your student debt repayment.

Come up with a budget and personal repayment plan that looks at your income, outgoings and student loan contributions. By planning ahead you can manage your debt better once the repayments begin.

Don’t panic

One of the impacts of student debt that is less talked about is the mental burden that it creates. Just hearing the words, “you owe $20,000” for example can deter a lot of talented teenagers from attending higher education.

The important thing is to not panic when thinking about your student debt. No matter how much your course costs, you can manage your finances if you have a clear head and a clear plan. Education is the bedrock of society, so do not let money worries stop you from pursuing your dream.

Debt is not necessarily damaging

Although living with debt is not ideal, student debt is not the same as owing thousands to a loan shark. Paying off your loan doesn’t mean that you have to live off sawdust and hay for the next twenty years either, in fact you can still make the major purchases that you’ve always dreamed of.

Many organisations now view student debt in a more forgiving light than they used to and are willing to offer a number of financing options. Doctor loans, for example, are available to recently graduated medical students to help them purchase a home and other graduate professions are granted similar benefits.

Help yourself while helping others

If you’re based in the US, it is worth looking into volunteer programmes that offer “student loan forgiveness.” Although you’ll still have to pay off some of your debt, a portion may be written off or deferred. By signing up to a volunteer scheme like this, you get to help others while helping yourself to a debt-free future.

Another useful site in the UK is the Money Advice Service who offer free advice on how to deal with debts after you graduate.

Live within your means

A good tip for anyone, but particularly recently graduated students, is to live within your means. After leaving student life behind, it may be tempting to suddenly start living a more extravagant lifestyle, making the most of your real-world paycheck. However, make sure you don’t overdo it.

Paying Back Student Loans

Student loan debt can be crippling unless you handle it the right way. If you understand your situation and know what to do, you can eliminate your debt sooner and live more comfortably without that monkey on your back.

Here’s how you can achieve this:

  • Be willing to sacrifice

Getting out of debt requires discipline. You must be willing to adjust your lifestyle to make your financial goals happen. This means evaluating and eliminating certain spending behaviors until you’re debt-free. To do this, make a budget and look for items you can eliminate. Generally, this means you will have to reduce the number of times you eat out, limit vacations and time away from work, buy clothes only when you absolutely need to and postpone buying that brand new TV or Smart Phone. While it may be hard to do at times, realize that the sacrifice you put in today will pay off big in the future.

  • Find creative ways to make more cash

One of the best ways to pay off student loan debt is to find additional sources of cash. While the economy continues to be flat, there are opportunities to make money. For starters, you can use websites like Craigslist or eBay to sell old clothes or items you don’t use. Further, you can take on small, on-the-side jobs like doing yard work, cleaning homes, or babysitting. Lastly, you could find a part-time job delivering pizzas. Ultimately, no matter how you make it happen, your hard work will pay off as you are taking the steps necessary to become debt-free quicker.

  • Pay off private loans first

Private loans tend to have higher interest rates. Many times, these rates are variable rates, meaning they may increase in a few years. You want to pay off these private loans before the interest rates increase, adding onto the already large balance, making it difficult to pay the bill.

  • Know your options

There may come a time where you suffer a hardship and will need assistance. When you encounter this, call your lender and inform them of your situation. They have options available for borrowers, which includes a temporary forbearance in some instances, which allows you to hold off making payments for a set period of time. You may also want to look into debt consolidation to reduce monthly bills. Further, with the Income-Based Repayment Plan, you only have to make payments up to 15 percent of your pay. To take advantage of these programs, it’s imperative that you communicate with your lenders. They only want to help you. If you don’t keep them updated, you can miss out on options that may be available to you.

Paying off student loan debt may seem like a colossal task, but with proper planning, hard work and sacrifice, you can make it happen. By following these steps and evaluating your finances regularly, you can find ways to cut costs and pay down these bills quicker. In turn, you can gain confidence in knowing that these small steps now will lead to a debt-free future.

Jeffery Sterner writes and blogs about personal financial well-being and issues that influence it for Debt.org, America’s Debt Help Organization.

>Personal Financial Education compulsory in the UK from 2011

>As a nation, we’ve educated our youth into debt but never about debt.
By Martin Lewis

Yet that’s all going to change, it’s been announced that from September 2011 personal finance education will be a compulsory part of schools’ curriculum.

It can’t come too soon. Student loans have hit the grand old age of 20, yet it’s taken that time for politicians to realise government-enforced borrowing must be coupled with government–enforced financial education.
Even so, being money–savvy needs more than just a classroom, so as I’ll explain later, there are three vital Teen Cash Class lessons to teach your kids.

It’s about breaking the UK’s debt habit
The modern UK has a nasty debt habit. While many of the grandparent generation follow the ‘neither a borrower nor lender be’ mantra, some of today’s parents are debt–bingers relying on plastic as a crutch to fuel unsustainable lifestyles.
We’re left with an unnatural juxtaposition; borrowing has lost its stigma. After all, we need it to buy houses or get educated yet we’re a debt–illiterate nation.

And while we need to accept that debt’s fire used correctly is a powerful enabler, too many still get burnt. So the challenge is what and how we teach our children to stop passing on bad messages and break the cycle of debt.

It mustn’t become an exercise in bank branding

For too long, the only financial educators in some schools have been banks, with their ‘school bank of Natwest’ and the like – a sceptic would say this is touting for trade, disguised as generosity.

It was once calculated people are more likely to get divorced than change bank account. So if banks bribe 10-year-olds to join with a cheap plastic toy, they may still have them as customers half a century – and thousands of pounds in profit – later.

Not every bank aim is Machiavellian, but if we’re going to invite banks into schools, let’s ask ten in to compete for business and show pupils how to assess their offers. This may just help teach that a bank’s prime job is to sell us products, not help.

Check out the sweeties by the till

To start wee ones off correctly, they need to be told the modern world is all about competition and marketing. For that, there’s nowhere better than those cathedrals of consumerism we call supermarkets.

When there with under eights, ask them: “Why do you think there are sweeties by the till?” And when those cherubic faces look up, explain that it’s because a supermarket’s job is to make money, so they put the sweeties there so you won’t forget to ask mummy or daddy for them. That way, they might make a little bit more money.

What’s in the new curriculum?

Financial education will become a compulsory part of what’s known as Personal, Health and Social Education (PHSE) – a life class that also includes sex, drugs, hygiene and health education taught to all primary and secondary pupils.

Personally, I’d also love to see an intensive couple of weeks taught to 16–year–olds after they’ve finished GCSEs and before end-of-term – the perfect moment to prepare them for the real world (see the Government’s plans for the curriculum).

Yet the core concern is what’ll be taught; much of the exact curriculum is still being developed, although certainly in early years it’ll start with the basics covering how notes and coins work – and in senior school feature interest and credit cards.

But bank accounts and how income tax works isn’t enough; we need to set them up as effective empowered consumers.

It’s about training us to buy better.

Companies spend billions of pounds a year on marketing, advertising and teaching their staff to sell, so this is a wonderful opportunity for schools to engage in what I call buyer’s training.
That can pay real dividends – a couple of years ago, in an experiment filmed for ITV1’s Tonight programme, I was parachuted into a school to see what I could teach a dozen 15–year–olds in a ‘Teen Cash Class’.

The results were astonishing. After just one day, the kids went home and saved their parents a combined £6,000. That leads to two obvious conclusions: first, there’s a need for financial education in schools; and second, there’s a need for financial education of adults too. Afterall, if their children can save them so much, not everything’s right.

The class worked so well, I was asked to convert the lesson plans into a free guide which I’m pleased to say has now been downloaded by teens, parents and teachers nearly half a million times.

Thankfully, there is room to include this type of teaching in the curriculum. I know, as I was recently asked in by Children’s Secretary Ed Balls to discuss what’s being taught.

He’ll now be incorporating the Teen Cash Class philosophy into elements of the teaching – and it’s already underway with the help of finance education group Pfeg.

And putting my money where my mouth is, I’ve volunteered to go and start to talk to teachers to encourage them on the subject. During the original cash class, I found the teachers I met in staffrooms were bursting with even more questions.

As a clarion call, it’s worth remembering this has taken years to come to the table. No matter who forms the next government, it’s crucial nothing derails it. Perhaps, had we started teaching about money a couple of decades earlier, our recession would not have been nearly as deep.
The Teen Cash Class (also see the Teen Cash Class guide)

Lesson 1: A company’s job is to make money.

There’s nothing more important than understanding companies aren’t there to help, give advice or be your friend; they’re there to make money.
It doesn’t make them bad, it’s just something that needs to be understood. So when you see sexy adverts or marketing trying to target your spending impulses, remember someone’s spent serious cash targeting your desires to loosen your pockets – even when it isn’t necessarily the right thing to do.

That’s the reason Dragons’ Den isn’t called Fluffy Bunnies’ Den: their job is’’t to help, it’s about profit.

So don’t let them get one up on you – every time you buy something, step back and ask: “Do I need it, will I use it, have I checked if it’s available cheaper elsewhere?” If not, keep the cash in your pockets.

Lesson 2: Debt isn’t bad, bad debt is bad

Grandparents can be very dangerous. If they tell you never to borrow, don’t listen! If you want to buy a house or go to university, the system is designed so you’ll need to borrow, unless you’ve super–rich parents.
What’s crucial isn’t whether you borrow. but how. Massive differences between different types of debt mean getting it wrong can cost £1,000s. And that’s the problem with the ‘don’t ever borrow, little Johnny’ attitude because if it’s all bad and you need debt, you mightn’t focus on the right type.
Many students leave university with well over £10,000 of borrowing. Each year, when I’m interviewed about the new student debt figures, I answer: “It’s not how much, but how much of each type that counts.”

•Good debt. Official student loans are the cheapest long–term debt you’ll ever get (currently 0%) and only need repaying if you earn over £15,000. You pay 9% of anything earned above that, so the more you earn, the more you repay.

•OK debt. Banks try and buy your custom with interest–free student overdrafts. Yet if you’re still in debt when you graduate, the rate shoots up to 18%. Use this for short–term cash shortages if necessary, but not long–term borrowing.

•Bad debt. Get a credit card, loan or hire purchase as a student and it’s a nightmare. High rates mean you’ll owe more and more. When you’re a student, it’s tough to repay. In a nutshell, avoid.

Far too many students who’ve been told “don’t borrow!” find they end up with the worst debts, as they don’t delineate between different types.
Lesson 3: Loyalty doesn’t pay

While it’s an important quality with friends, family, girlfriends and boyfriends; when it comes to dealing with mobile phone companies, brands, insurers, banks, shops and more, loyalty is for losers.

Most of the best deals are for new customers. If you look around, they need to fight to win your business which tends to mean more money in your pocket.

For example, car insurers kick and spit to win new business, tempting people in with ultra–hot deals. Yet when it comes to renewal, your price goes up as you’re paying for the newbies’ discounts. Shockingly, if you apply to your existing company as a new customer with identical details, you’ll usually be charged much less.

>Scary statistics about students and money

>Adding fuel to the fire for the need for better financial education – here are some scary statistics from the US regarding students and finance.

More college students drop out of college because of financial reasons than because of academic reasons?

Some college age students have committed suicide because they can’t handle the debt that they got themselves into?

62% expect of college graduates will have a student loan debt averaging $27,236 (Student Monitor)

40% will never gain a net worth in excess of $10,000 (American Dream Education Campaign)

In most cases, economics and personal financial literacy programs are elective classes so “only 12% of Americans graduate from high school having learned anything about money at all.” (FoxNews.com)

Less than 1/4 of students and only 20% of parents say students are very well prepared to deal with the financial challenges that await them after graduation. (KeyBank)

57% of college graduates plan to move back with their parents. (MonsterTrak.com)

Research shows that individuals who have taken a personal finance education course have a higher savings rate, higher net worth and make larger contributions to their 401ks. (The Department of the Treasury)

Studies show that it takes less than 10 hours of financial literacy education to influence a child’s financial choices and decisions as adults.